Blaming Others For Your Problems is Not Your Solution - Take Responsibility For Your Life

Just come across this article By : Liz Rispin about taking responsibilty thought I would take the time to share it with you...


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Blaming and complaining go hand in hand and appear to have become fashionable habits for a lot of people. They endlessly complain about practically everything - weather, traffic, stock market, politicians, boss, and so on. The chances are that you are also one of them. As Robert Half puts it succinctly - "The search for someone to blame is always successful." What a great way to avoid being responsible by blaming others for your problems, is it?


Complaining prepares the ground for final action - blaming. This provides an escape route from taking responsibility for one's actions. That is the end of the blame game; and the problems remain where they are, or get magnified as time passes while you are busy complaining and blaming. Just think about it: you happily blame others for your failures, why don't you give them credit for your successes too?

Taking ownership of the results of one's actions is a tough thing to do for most people, though it is the wise thing to do. Blaming others is an unhealthy thing as it blocks your personal growth. By blaming others you are giving up the power to change and making yourself subordinate to others.

There is another danger in the habit of blaming others; it soon becomes a breeding ground for other negative tendencies such as holding a grudge, resenting, anger, self pity, etc. All this is cancerous and will slowly eat up your general well being over a period of time.

However, like any other bad habit the habit of complaining and blaming can also be tackled with some efforts. You have to understand that you can't control everything that happens to you or to your life - in fact, no one can. Nevertheless, you can learn to control your reactions to events outside your control. The foremost thing to do is to try to control the urge to complain and, with some practice, you will be able to stop complaining.

Accepting responsibility is the next step - admit whenever you make a mistake; recognize your shortcomings and do something about them; open up yourself to ideas and opinions of others; learn to forgive; and adopt an optimistic outlook towards life. So take responsibility for your life and stop blaming others for your problems.

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